Common Coaching Issues
Often our symptoms are ways that our body and mind are trying to get our attention
to correct long-standing habits and character patterns.
I am exhausted and completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart. Psalm 38:8
Burnout
Often from poor boundaries, i.e.:
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People pleasing
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Perfectionism
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Conflicted values
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Work-a-holism
Negative Emotions
Examples are:
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Depression (isolation instead of connection)
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Anxiety (fear of circumstances instead of hope)
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Anger (resentment instead of compassion)
Low Self-Worth
Repeated sense of failure due to:
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Unclear purpose
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Unaware of God-given aptitudes
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Frequent shame
Any of these struggles can lead to addictions as a way to handle the pain or stay distracted.
Addictions are not just a drug and alcohol problem. Almost anything that is pleasurable and even good for us can become corrupted into an addiction including love, approval, food, emotions, and even religion.
We need God's help to find our way out of these messes.
Listen to my cry for help, for I am sunk in despair. Save me from my enemies; they are too strong for me. Psalm 142:6
What is Coaching?
I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us. Philippians 3:14
For I am confident of this very thing, that He who began a good work among you will complete it by the day of Christ Jesus. Philippians 1:6
A coach is like a sports coach. The athlete is already skilled in the sport but needs the objective perspective of a coach to see and correct bad habits to make it to the next level of success.
As a Christian, you have already committed to following the Lord. This is a great advantage because you are ready to follow Biblical principles. I have seen over and over that it is God’s word and the spiritual principles contained in it that change us. God does the hard work and is just waiting for our willingness to let Him do the work.
I’m a life coach in that I help you see your blind spots and bad habits that hold you back in life. The Bible tells us that bad habits are a result of a heart condition (Matthew 15:18). I help you not only examine behaviors and life problmes, but your heart. Our values are the foundation of the heart, showing what we treasure.
God is love. God's love is a vast ocean. He longs to shower us with His love. Love that is the most powerful force in the universe. Love that drives out fear and resurrects the dead.
We, on the other hand, have this little tiny straw with which to drink in His love. We sense there is more just out of reach. We want to know God and be loved by Him, but how do we do this?
It's probably not another Bible study.
Work with me to find out how to say yes to God's love.
Say Yes to God's Love
Look at the birds of the sky, that they do not sow, nor reap, nor gather crops into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more important than they?
Matthew 6:26
Meet Jae
Biblical Life Coach and Psychologist
I could tell you about my education, qualifications, or faith walk. You can find these things here.
Instead, A.W. Tozer says the most important thing about us is what we think about God. (Knowledge of the Holy, 1978, p.1)
The most important thing about me is that I love the Lord. If you spend a little time with me, you will see that I love the Lord and think He is amazing and wonderful. On the other hand, I’m not what I would call a “churchy” person. We live in a society and attend churches that often teach us to be “fake nice” and “fake good.” I don’t last in those kinds of groups very long.
I love my local church, Sunday school, and Bible study group. But I don't like social gatherings per se, I hate small talk, and I don’t consider church to be social support. I will not give you a pseudo-spiritual answer like “pray harder.” I will listen to what you say (and what you don’t say). I will have compassion for your struggle. I will get to the heart of the matter and help you see it too. I love God and I love people too much to leave you wandering around in the dark.
No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. Matthew 5:15
